I knew when I met Tennis Guy that he traveled extensively and that we would be apart for long stretches of time. The being apart part I can TOTALLY handle, it's the not being in contact part that's harder to accept. Practically I know that not hearing from him for 2 days is NOT something to worry about at all, especially since he's overseas and is working, but emotionally I feel like it doesn't take THAT much time to send a quick text message letting me know he's thinking about me. I can completely see going for periods of time without contact once things are established a little more and I have more security in our relationship, but so early in the game, it's hard not to assume that he's just lost interest. I know he is absolutely not the type to just disappear on women, he would definitely tell me if he didn't want to see me again, yet I still sit at work and worry he's "over me". I wonder if I'll ever grow out of my insecurities and stop being afraid that people are going to hurt me and/or leave me.
In other news: I won this week's football pool at work, so I have $50 extra dollars to blow this week, AND the books I ordered from Barnes and Noble that I thought got lost randomly showed up today.
What should I blow my $50 on? more books? a really good meal? put it on the bank? What would you do?
I say embrace the distance as a way to keep yourself from stifling the relationship in its early stages. That's one of the reasons why even though the dating arrangement TH and I had in the beginning of our relationship was difficult, it produced such a strong connection. There was no way I could over-stay my welcome...because he had to go.
ReplyDeleteOh...and I say treat yourself to the first thing that comes to mind as you walk down the street tomorrow morning.
I spent my $50 on lunch for me and two of my coworkers. California Pizza Kitchen..YUM!
ReplyDeleteI was of course just being silly with Tennis guy....just as you said, for us the distance is good and forces us to go slow and build something lasting. I was just being a...sigh GIRL about it all.