Saturday, November 27, 2004

Will I always be alone?


Daniel said...

i ask myself that question, too.

Cryptonomicon said...

Hi Kai! I found your blog through fwaam (my usernick is StuckintheMiddle there. Yes, I'm a guy dammit, and yes, I'm an Asian guy.)

This question, though simple, does not always give a simple answer. Interestingly enough, I've never actually _asked_ myself that question - I've always _answered_ it to myself.

My quippy answer would be "not if I can help it!"

My philosophical answer would be "You are what you make yourself to be."

My analytical answer would be:
Depends on what you mean by "alone". If you mean without the love of your friends and family, that will never happen. Yes, there will be times when you will want to or will shut out your friends because of stress and strife, and your true friends, and family will be there for you.

If you mean "alone" in a romantic context, I find the biggest deterrent to people is that they're hurt and are afraid of new situations. People are afraid to talk to each other (especially in a big and isolated city like New York) and this creates barriers to communication. I believe communication is very important to a relationship.

What I won't tell you is that relationship are easy or easily achievable. They aren't, and saying "there, there, pet pet (one of my female friends' favourite mannerisms)" isn't really my style. Statistics isn't in your favour, but it's doable if you want it hard enough.

And there is my long answer to your short question. (Or as I would call it, writing a novel-sized answer in a blog-sized post.)

StuckintheMiddle (posing as SashaSasha)
Toronto Ontario

Kweeches said...

I doubt it.
But I probly will unless I get some pointers from that asian guy.