Wednesday, May 14, 2008

He used The Word.....

In conversation the other day Eharmony boy referred to me as his girlfriend.

I very nearly passed out. In my life that's not a word that gets used. I've never had anyone use that word to describe me and it threw me for a loop. It's not a word I'm very comfortable with and even though I know he meant it more in the "girl I'm currently seeing" way and that he is no way pressuring me, it weirded me out to hear myself described that way. We've talked about where we are at, and he knows I'm a total commitment phobe and he has never asked anything more of me than I was comfortable with, but hearing that term just.....really threw me off.

Eharmony boy is a dream boyfriend...he says all the right things, does the right things, he's courteous and in general just a good man. I just don't know how I feel about him.....something just seems to be missing, but I can't pinpoint it. Is it chemistry that's missing or is it that he's so easy to be with that the drama and anxiety are missing and that's why it feels odd? I suppose this is why you date and as long as everyone is on the same page, which we are, it's ok to have these feelings, but I have to say the terminology (though I do admit has been something I have longed to hear at least once in my life) is FREAKING ME OUT!


Seeking Solace said...

I think it's a good sign. My husband was the same way when we first started dating. In fact, the first time he told me that he loved me, he said "I think I love you."

We have been married for 16 years.

PinksandBluesGirls said...

GREAT SIGN!!!! I had a huge smile on my face when I read your post!! Very good news there Miss Kai!

Caryn said...

I agree with everyone else - very good sign, it's a GOOD THING!!!

Anna May Won't said...

i do think using the term "girlfriend" is a big deal. before MB, i dated three guys - one for SIX MONTHS - and none of them called me their girlfriend, and i didn't really think of any of them as my boyfriend.

i'm not in your shoes, but all i can say is listen to your instinct and keep an open mind. easier said than done, huh? ;)

Cheeky said...

I think you hit the nail on the head when you said you the drama was I say just sit back and enjoy the ride.