I came across this article on CNN this morning. Two men have founded an exclusive on-line dating site for "fit, good looking people". If you want to join, you submit ONLY your photo to the site and members rate your looks (the article specifically says that members rating you have no other info about you, other than your pics to base their rating on). If you get a high enough score, you are allowed to join. At $9.95 a month hotenough.org is considerably less expensive than match.com and the uber-expensive Eharmony.com, and it" saves time and it does the searching for you, narrows it down to the people that you are interested in meeting" according to one member.
Browse the NY Craigslist Men seeking Women personals and you will be inundated with posts seeking "skinny, attractive" mates, a large number of the ads go so far as to call those who may not fit the required measurements "fatsos" and specify themselves as "not a chubby chaser". Throughout our entire lives we are faced with images of "the ideal body type" and are taught that "pretty people are better". Disney princesses are slender and attractive, the overwhelming majority of celebrities are stick thin, magazines are full of models with bodies unattainable to most of us with even the strictest of diets and exercise regimes. The message isn't only "attractiveness is ideal", it's that "unattractiveness (by societal standards) means you are worth LESS than others are".
Dating is enough of a self-esteem buster as it is, add in elitist clubs and men with weight restrictions and it's a wonder any of us less than ideal people have successful relationships at all.
Maybe I should start my own site "(not)hotenough.org". In order to join you must wear tapered jeans, eat pizza at least three times a week, and not be a member of a gym.